Plan To Get Your Ex Back

If you want the best chance of getting your ex back you will need to go about it the right way. After a breakup, most people fail to rescue their relationship because they depend on their intuition to help them.

Unfortunately, this usually leads them to do the opposite of what they REALLY NEED to do.

If you want to succeed, you’ll need a plan to get your ex back, and one that’s based on more than intuition. Try the following step by step plan and increase your chances of success.

Be prepared to take your time getting back together

Don’t rush into doing anything, it’ll backfire on you, for lots of reasons. The main reason is that you’ll most likely drive your ex even further away.

You have to give your ex time to get over whatever it was that caused your breakup and they will also need some time to realize how much they actually miss you.

If you jump in too soon, feelings will still be too raw. And don’t overlook stubbornness either, your ex hasn’t had enough time to question their decision, and until they do, your powers of persuasion will just be wasted.

So take your time.

While you’re waiting…

Deal with your own breakup emotions

If you contact your ex before you have your emotions firmly under control, you’ll run the risk of turning your contact into a fighting match, or breaking down and pleading with your ex to come back.

Either of these things will not get your ex back. Instead you’ll convince your ex that they took the right decision when they dumped you.

Your real aim is to be attractive to your ex.

Think of it this way, if you wanted to attract someone new into your life, how would you try and appear to them?

As someone who is ready to fight and argue?

As someone who looks needy and pathetic?

If this wouldn’t work with a stranger then don’t expect it to work with your ex either.

Be a confident, happy and stable person and you’ll stand a better chance of achieving your aims.

What caused the breakup?

To get your ex back and heal your relationship you will have to understand exactly what caused your ex to take such drastic measures and break up with you.

Until you discover the real cause, you won’t be able to take the appropriate steps to rectify it, and this will be critical to your success.

You’re going to have to demonstrate to your ex that, whatever the cause was, will never happen again.

Be very honest with yourself and admit your own faults and any mistakes that you made. Try and think of any ways that you’ve changed for the worse.

Ideally, you want to get back to that person your ex fell in love with in the beginning, becoming that person again will remind your ex of their initial feelings for you.

Ask for a meeting with your ex

If you’ve avoided contact for enough time then your ex should have enough confidence by now that they won’t be intimidated by having some contact with you, also, they’ll be more confident that you’ll be able to control yourself and your emotions.

So keep things light-hearted, especially with that initial call or text, and make sure that things don’t degrade into a shouting match or blaming each other.

Avoid anything that could potentially lead to a fight.

Your ex will most likely need some reason to meet with you, if you can’t think of a good reason, maybe you’ve finances or belongings to sort out, just let them know that you’re uncomfortable with the way you broke up and you’d like to clear the air and end things in a more agreeable way.

Have a makeover

When you finally do meet up with your ex, look your best.

It may seem trivial, but remember that your trying to attract your ex all over again, so don’t miss out on this part of your plan for getting your ex back.

Looking good will make you feel good, boost your confidence and help you make the best impact on your ex.

How to handle talking about your breakup

I know I said avoid anything that could end up with you fighting, but, at some point the subject of your breakup will arise.

This is where you demonstrate that you’ve put a lot of effort into finding out the real reason behind the split and what you’ve done to make sure these things will never happen again.

Be prepared to admit your own faults and mistakes but don’t be tempted to just accept all the blame. It takes two to tango, your ex will have their own faults that contributed to bust up.

That isn’t an excuse for passing the blame back and forth between the both of you, that’s a sure way to end up arguing.

Instead, simply state your contribution to the breakup and make a simple apology if necessary, but only do it once. If you say it with conviction then it’s up to your ex to accept your apology or not. If they accept it then there should never be a reason to have to repeat it.

If you handle this right, you can not only avoid any confrontation, but you’ll likely find that your ex is willing to share the blame and admit their own mistakes.

In any case, make sure you keep it casual and civilized.

What happens next?

That depends on how you end your first meeting. You may find that there is nothing left to do, you both made up and jumped back into each other’s arms at that first meeting.

But more likely that didn’t happen. So make sure that you don’t put any demands on your ex or even hint at getting back together again.

This first meeting was to break the ice, clear the air and put you both back on talking terms again.

Your ex should feel comfortable in your company.

If you’ve done this right then you’ve achieved your aims and you’re well on your way to getting your ex back. The most critical part is over.

However, patience is still your best friend. Be prepared to leave your first meeting with no plans organized for the future.

Be happy with what you’ve achieved. Moving too fast at this stage could damage all the effort you’ve put in so far.

Your ex should have left your first meeting with a fresh perspective on you, your breakup, and their feelings for you.

They will be impressed that you kept your promises. You were not emotional, demanding or made any attempt to get back together with them, and if you managed to be the person you used to be, they’ll be thinking differently after the meeting than they did at the beginning.

Now, give your ex time to reach their own conclusions. Stay in control of yourself and your emotions, and be patient.

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